Narcissist Sees YOU as TWO WOMEN: Reframing Mortifications, Exiting Shared Fantasy

Narcissist regards your love as a weakness, a vulnerability he can exploit and leverage to obtain supply, sex, and services and, if he is a sadist, to hurt you. Women escalate and fail to get a rise out of him: he doesn’t mind or care. The narcissist grieves the shared fantasy not you: his sunk cost (investment) and the inconvenience of having to start all over again. His mourning is aggressive and closer to fury that to pain and sadness. Women are the only ones who can mortify the narcissist because he reframes their cheating and betrayal as total rejection of his entire being in every possible role (man, lover, companion, guru, husband, father, even provider). Men reject only specific functions and roles that the narcissist fails in (business partner, collaborator, friend). RELATIONSHIP CYCLE Grooming and love bombing (including false promises) Shared fantasy leads to narcissistic abuse type 1, intended to test the parental capacity of the partner and reenact early