5. Anger – a gift? Or a liability?

“Emotion will always guide us into feeling our way around in the dark — if we only allow this most natural process to take place. But sadly, most of the time this process is ignored. For example, instead of allowing his anger to guide him to a feeling, J will simply hit the pub with a vengeance, in the hope of finding a partner in crime who will commiserate with him on the unreasonableness of females. Back home, B, instead of allowing her anger to guide her into a deeper feeling, will more often than not also find a partner in crime, or else will resort to feeling bad about herself, in the sense of feeling that she is too stupid to speak to her husband intelligently“. The Journey of Adjustment, Théun Mares.